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The biggest changes I have noticed in myself is how easy the tough days have been to get through with a smile on my face. My overall happiness and energy levels for life are off the charts. I have regained confidence in my thoughts which has allowed my to put my thoughts into actions. People seem like they WANT to talk to me instead of needing to talk to me. People close to me seem so genuinely happy for me with the peace I have found as well.
What I liked the most about the program was that it taught me to look at things from both sides and to transform the negative things my ex was saying into lessons about where I let myself down in my previous relationship and what I really needed to work on as a man to rise up and become a much better person for me my kids and my future partner. The best result for me would be seeing my children as often as I like and co parenting as I could only have dreamed I could prior to taking on the course. I’ve noticed I’m much calmer and a much more confident person. I’ve also stoped drinking and smoking and face my problems head on. I’ve noticed my X has started to trust me and talk about the things we need to in regards to co-parenting.
The program was amazing. It gave me insight into things that I never knew and took me from a place of brokenness to the start of a place of control and power within myself. I regained my masculinity and control over my life, on my terms! My ex started chasing me again. My kids feel more comfortable at my house rather than their mothers and I receive comments from parents that I am looking happy. I am more self-confident with the break up, I am no longer as sad and am focused on the happiness in the future.
I loved the course content, webinars, and definitely the personal conversations on the phone with Millar, being able to answer questions. For me, making the move from Perth to Whyalla to be closer to my daughter was so scary but building the courage through doing this course removed 99% of the anxiety I had. I had a massive drop of ego and a lot more self awareness in situations. I am now in a routine which I have never done before and feeling a lot more grounded. I have a better relationship between my ex and I. Things are more amicable and I am able to put my emotions aside whilst in person with her having a discussion.
The program, for me, I found quite difficult because of all that was happening in my life at the time. I soon learnt that if you’re heading in the wrong direction it is all for nothing though. Going through this program meant that I had a road map to regaining respect and also giving respect back to my ex, which opened up the possibilities of better access to my daughter. Being very self aware of my faults was shown to me by going through the first few weeks of the course and I’m forever grateful. Millar was very supportive for the whole time, even when I got distracted.
The aspect that I liked the most about the program is the accountability for your actions/or lack of actions. The best result for me is the grounding effect on my life. The changes I have noticed is the confidence to engage people in conversation again and I think I have had a positive impact on other’s lives in recent times. For the first time in a long time, I can make decisions based on what I want and not what others want. I am starting to use my boundaries with people a bit more, but this still needs work. I had a conversation with the ex on the weekend for an hour, the longest time since she left.
Best thing I liked about the course is the sense of utter hopelessness replaced with full throttle empowerment, it’s actually something to behold.Best result was when my 10 year old says that I actually look strong, first thing she says to me when I pick her up for the weekend. Changes in myself include confidence, and the pathway back to my true value, something I lost in my 21-year relationship. My kids and friends noticed the difference over the period of the course went from an absolute mess for a bit to a weapon in the making, even Millar noticed our phone conversations changed as well everyone commented on the difference, even my bosses noticed.